5 Tips for Blowing Your Partner’s Mind in Bed
Whether you and your partner have been married for decades or just got together a couple of months ago, there’s no such thing as a bad time (or a bad reason) to want to make sex as exciting as possible. A great sex life is more than just fun. It can be a game-changer that boosts intimacy and ensures the two of you stay close through thick and thin.
Plus, it’s a huge rush, not to mention a major ego boost, to know you truly have what it takes to rock your partner’s world and stay on their mind long after leaving the bedroom. So here are a few choice ideas to get started with.
1. Turn Kegels into a habit.
A strong pelvic floor is everyone’s best friend when it comes to great sex, and this is the case for every gender. Robust pelvic muscles improve sexual control for men, support vaginal tightness for women, and lead to incredibly satisfying orgasms for absolutely anyone. And keeping your pelvic floor muscles strong can reduce the likelihood of having urinary issues as you get older.
Kegels are the key to keeping your pelvic floor muscles strong, tight, and toned, so it’s officially time to start doing yours regularly. To exercise your pelvic floor, clench the same muscles you’d use to hold in urine or stop a bowel movement. Then release and repeat. Try to work your way up to three sets of ten reps per day for best results.
2. Reframe your idea of foreplay.
Sex is always so much better when there’s plenty of anticipation leading up to the big event. However, so many couples think of foreplay as something that only starts a few minutes before you’re ready to do the deed. In actuality, foreplay can take many different forms, and it can begin anytime, so don’t be afraid to get creative.
Try sending your partner off to work for the day with a long, lingering kiss and some well-chosen naughty words that hint at great things to come later that day. Then, surprise them at work or throughout the day with some spicy texts or even a five-alarm selfie if you’re in the mood. By the time the two of you see each other again, you won’t be able to get to the bedroom fast enough.
3. Ask your partner about their fantasies.
While everyone enjoys having sex with their partner, far too few couples actually sit down and talk about sex together as often as they should. But talking about sex is one of the easiest ways to officially start blowing your partner’s mind between the sheets. So if you really want to know what would get your partner going, simply open up and ask them.
Being asked what turns you on or what your fantasies are can be such a turn-on. And this is, even more, the case because so few people ever take the time to ask, let alone act on any of what they’re told. So ask and listen closely to the answers. Then pick a scenario you like the sounds of and bring it to life some night.
4. Make toys a regular part of your routine.
Even the hottest, most intensely in love couples occasionally go through dry spells or fall into sexual ruts, and it’s not hard to understand how it happens. Life gets busy, and people end their days tired when that’s the case. It can be hard to find the energy to rattle headboards at the end of the day, so you fall back on what you know works for both of you too often for a little too long.
That’s where toys can be a big help. Options like magic bullets, vibrating cock rings, or wearable couple’s vibrators are fun, effective ways to introduce new sensations into your sex life and take the guesswork out of pleasure for both of you. And they make it second nature to get creative and think outside the box, so it pays to keep an exciting sex toy collection close at hand.
5. Embrace the art of spontaneity.
Although there’s definitely something to be said for a well-planned seduction scene, there’s nothing sexier or more mind-blowing than enthusiastic spontaneity. So throw back to your early days together as a couple and start looking for opportunities to get a little frisky when your partner least expects it. Grope them playfully when no one’s looking, or lean over and whisper something dirty into their ear while you’re out in public together. Embrace opportunities to enjoy quickies, nooners, or playful little encounters in out-of-the-way places and at unusual times. Spontaneity keeps sex exciting, satisfying, and fun, so don’t be afraid to embrace it. You’ll be glad you did.